9n. Manages His Children Well, 1 Timothy 3:12

Manages His Children Well

1 Timothy 3:12 A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children and his household well.

Here is a dying trait of a good husband and leader; a man who teaches, trains, and disciplines his children. If they cannot manage his children and keep them orderly, how will they be orderly in the work of the Lord? All too often children are left to themselves to figure out life, to learn right from wrong on their own. In the guise of self expression and self worth, children are encouraged to mark out their own path, to experience life and decide for themselves who God is. A man worthy of leadership is not like this. They train up a child in the way they should go so they will not depart from it.

Someday, ladies, you may become mothers. Encourage your husband to train up your child, to encourage and discipline them. To use a "rod" on them and save their soul from death (Prov 23:14).
Physical discipline is necessary, some children more than others, but it is important for all. If your husband is abusive, report him to the police. But if he lovingly disciplines and train them, support him. You must work side by side and not create division nor confusion during correction. Be on the same page, decide ahead of time how to discipline then raise up young men and women of God. The work of the Lord will go forward when children are well trained to know and love the Lord. Aid in their training.

~Dad